I have told you prior that the journey of foster to adopt is a roller coaster of emotions and events. This case has certainly had those moments, but this by far is the most extreme. Well, Bio Dad was on house arrest. Then he was in jail for a couple of months. Hasn't seen Sweet Pea since February, and that was only at a court hearing. He had missed visits for a month. Anyway, apparently he qualified for a rehab program that would put him back on house arrest. So, was put on house arrest on a Friday, and took off his bracelet and skipped town Saturday. This was a couple of weeks ago. He's still on the lam. Bio Dad is dangerous, and it worries me that he is on the loose, and I hope he is apprehended soon. But in the meantime, he let the caseworker know that he wanted his father to have custody of Sweet Pea. (leading the caseworker to believe he was still on house arrest-this is before the police know he is missing.) The father stated he would take custody of Sweet Pea. I asked the caseworker if this was a possibility. She didn't say yes, and didn't say no.
Grandpa has a drug and criminal conviction history. Apparently, he is also ill. He and Bio Dad have been estranged for years. He has never seen Sweet Pea. Caseworker has not heard from Grandpa since she spoke with him a couple weeks ago. So, we will see what happens.
On the other hand, Bio Mom is drug free (good for her!) and is starting to work her plan, yet still has poor parenting interactions with her children during visits. She still has 3 months til her permanency hearing with her other children, which also affects our Sweet Pea. She may get her life and parenting skills together in that time period, well enough for the agency to recommend the children go back to her. As a Mom, I know I would want my kids back, but I also know I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize them being taken in the first place. It breaks my heart to think of Sweet Pea leaving us, but if it must be, it must be. We foster parents don't have much say in the whole scheme of things. We have to wait and see, and that is the hardest part. Not knowing.
In all things, give thanks to God,
The Queen Mama